On Becoming a Better Writer

Now, I am, by no means, the best writer in the world nor do I claim to be — I don’t think I am even half there. There are still so much room for improvement, learning, and more practice.

Writing, for me, is not only a hobby that I cannot let go of but my way of pouring out my thoughts and feelings. I find it therapeutic; the way it helps me clear my mind and make me feel like someone is listening even though I am only facing this blank, white page that will soon be filled with my words. Continue reading

25 Things To Learn at 25

What is 25 supposed to feel like, anyway? Do you have to feel perfectly at peace with yourself? Do you have to be successful? Do you have to feel like you’ve got everything under control or that you have everything figured out? Honestly, I don’t have the answers either. Our mid-twenties are supposed to be the time for exploring everything — finding yourself, going beyond your limits, and the likes. Yet, here I am, spending most of my time feeling confused and stressed out.

There are days when I spend the whole day feeling pressured about the future – how each day and year leads closer and closer to my 30s and I’m still not where I thought I would be as an individual and that thought scares the shit out of me.

But hey, it’s my 25th year of existence, and though I am far from having everything figured out, in this post, instead of dwelling into the black hole, I will focus on the lessons that I picked up along the way (and have yet to apply in my daily life). Some of it may not be as important to others as it is important to me, but we all have different challenges in life, right? So, here goes:

  1. Hobbies are worth the time and investment — May it be reading, sports, writing, etc. If it matters to you, it’s worth it.
  2. Don’t let others convince you that your interests are a waste of time — Don’t let others’ opinion of what you enjoy doing get in your head. We all have different interests.
  3. Cut toxic people out of your life — You have a lot of problems already, you don’t need other people adding up to that stress.
  4. Your health matters (physical and mental) — Yes, work is important and it is your source of income but taking a break once in a while is okay.
  5. Skin care is important — One thing I’ve learned in the past year is that skin care is just as important as breathing. Take care of your body, and everything else follows.
  6. Drink lots of water — This is a problem I’ve been struggling with for the longest time, and I just needed to keep reminding myself that being hydrated is part of my skin care.
  7. Make time (or even exceptions) for the people and things that matter — If they matter to you, going out of your way just to make time for them is worth it, regardless of the consequences.
  8. Stop focusing on what others think of you — This is still a work in progress for me, but I’ll get the hang of it.
  9. Save for your future — Splurging every once in a while is okay, but always always always save up for your future. It’s all for you, anyway.
  10. Be kind, always — It may be hard to be kind when everyone around you seems to be testing your patience, but brush them off and be kind anyways.
  11. Never sell yourself short — Never settle for something or someone just because everyone thinks it’s the best for you. You’re the one who should know what’s best for you.
  12. Take risks — Never be afraid to take risks, it’s always better to say “at least I tried,” than forever wondering what could’ve been if you took the risk.
  13. Take a moment of rest — Staying in doesn’t make you boring. Sleep the whole day to make up for a stressful week. Just rest.
  14. It’s totally okay not to like what everyone else likes — You don’t have to like that popular movie series, or book series, or that new restaurant that everyone’s talking about, or travelling. If you’re not into it, don’t force yourself to like it.
  15. You don’t have to be following the footsteps of the person who came before you — You are your own person. You can’t keep competing with someone who came before you — they’re no longer in the picture for a reason. And you replaced them for a reason, too. So, focus on yourself.
  16. You are never an option — If someone makes you think that you are an option, get rid of them.
  17. It is never wrong to love with all your heart — Now, this is too personal but I need to stop overthinking things and just unleash the love that I’ve long been holding back.
  18. You are important — Never neglect your importance in this world, because if you can’t appreciate yourself, who else will?
  19. Your thoughts, ideas, and feelings matter — Never let anyone invalidate whatever it is that you think or feel towards something.
  20. Let things be – if it’s meant for you, it’s meant for you.
  21. Don’t stress over every damn thing — This needs to be emphasized. You don’t have control over everything, so stop worrying about every damn thing. Yes, I’m talking to you, self.
  22. You don’t have to apologize for what you feel — Your feelings matter. No explanations needed.
  23. Take care of yourself — You need to take care of yourself the way you take care of the people and things that matter to you. You should be your first priority.
  24. Crying doesn’t make you weak — Sometimes you just have to let things out. Your anger, your frustration — everything, and crying helps release all that.
  25. Celebrate the little things — Everyone has their own share of problems, but the key to being happy is that you should not spend all your time dwelling on those problems. Celebrate your little victories, it still a victory, no matter how small.

I hope these 25 things helps you, too, to be more positive and to see the light in the dark because life will always be unfair to all of us, but that’s what makes it fair all the same.

Feelings Lately

Wow, I can’t believe it’s already been two months since I last written something here. With that said, I can totally say that a lot has happened since then. There are so many things that dawned on me during the two months that I was away from this haven. What brought me back is that I really miss writing my heart out. Only here am I able to be fully transparent about everything that is currently running through my head without anyone trying to shut out whatever it is that I am feeling.

In just a few weeks I’ll be turning 25, and I have honestly been questioning my whole existence. There are so many things I want to do, to try, to explore — there are so many things out there to enjoy and discover. Yet, here I am. I feel like I wasted 25 years being stuck in the same place and I just can’t figure out how to break away from this mess.

These days, my life has been really confusing and I’ve been overthinking everything – from what will happen today or later this afternoon to what will happen next week or even in the future. It’s just— I’ve never felt this lost before. They say that if the people around you is causing you too much stress and negativity, get rid of them. But honestly, how can I do that when the most toxic people in my life are the ones who are supposed to support me? It’s frustrating when they think they’re protecting me or that they’re helping me be a better person when in reality, they don’t realize that they’re holding me off of the things that will help me grow and improve.

It’s actually hard when these supposedly important people in your life doesn’t understand you, but it’s harder when they insist what they know or what they think is right for you, as if they own you – as if you’re their robot and you have to do everything they say. All my life I keep going by the rules – their rules – yet, all they remember and all that matters to them are those little mistakes that I’ve made along the way. It gets frustrating and tiring and I don’t think anyone would even understand what I’m trying to say, but I’m writing this down anyway. It just feels like I have no one to talk to about certain things that’s been bothering me, and knowing myself, I’ll go crazy if I don’t let these feelings and thoughts out.

To That Girl

Dear self,

You have to believe that everything will turn out okay in the end — that whatever it is you are going through right now will eventually lead you to the happiness that you crave so much.

There may be times when you are losing hope — times when you feel like giving up is the easiest thing to do, but you have to stay strong and keep reminding yourself that you’ve already come this far just to give up everything you’ve worked for.

Always keep in mind that when you feel tired, it’s okay to take a rest. Then, stand up and take a deep breath and keep going. Remind yourself where you want to be, why you’re doing what you’re doing, and believe in yourself.

You can do it. Don’t listen to other people’s opinions of you, but rather, listen to your heart and know what calms it down and hold on to that because in the end, your happiness is what matters the most.

I’ll Leave This Blank

Trigger Warning: This post is messed up, you don’t have to read it. I just want to get it out of my head (if that’s even possible).

I feel so pressured lately that everyday I wake up to the thought that I’m running out of time. Suddenly, everything I do feels like it’s going to have a huge impact to my future.

I don’t know what to think of it, really. I’m the type of person who get so stressed easily, and these thoughts are seriously stressing me out. But on the other hand, it’s the first time in my whole life that I have a solid image of the future and I badly want to hold on to that image.

For the first time in 25 years (almost), I know what I want and I know where I need to be and who I want to be with. All I need to figure out right now is how I will execute everything.

I feel like I’m running out of time and I don’t want that. I don’t want all this to slip away just like that. I didn’t go through all that just to lose everything I’ve worked so hard for.